For BB and anyone else it may help

for Nitenurse who makes divine killer dinners in the face of adversity – well done

Hi Mucklow – this one is for you

For Building Bridges

Hi Aching Heart
I hope this sheds some light in the darkness for you
 

I think you have read this Blublu – but just in case your haven’t – this is for you

this ones for you ckp.    I believe all you have described is here.  You are in the right place

For James – I hope it helps.

You are doing well KB and you have worked a lot of this cycle out already. keep posting

For Sade – because I understand.
Velvet

For Alicyat

You have recognised your CG cycle – I hope this helps

For Nychantal
Hope to hear from you soon.

For Donna – I hope it helps

I have brought this up for Tractored but I hope it also helps others to realise that they are not alone – there is no judgement on this site

For Soph

For Jessie – hope this helps

for Eliza.

For Jordan.
I am writing a post to you at the moment but in the meantime, if you are reading the forum at the moment, I hope this helps to know that I understand
Velvet

For Janel.

Your husband really can change his life.

V

For MIchelle7 – hope this helps

For JLK

this one it is for Hammy

for Elizabeth

For Sheena

H Heatherly

Hope this helps

Hi Gem
As promised – hope it helps.
You are doing great

I hope this helps Kary – post again soon

For Hello

For Lost and Despair

this one is for Rocky

this time it is for Hannah

for jds

For Twh

For Stacey

For Annie

For Angsty Angie

For Soloma

Hi Soloma
I’m sorry you didn’t make the group, there was another mum in and it would have been great for you to talk to each other, however, I know life gets in the way.
I hope Worriedmama will come back to you soon but in the meantime I will answer your question as best I can and that is that it is often best not to believe what your son says simply because believing makes you more vulnerable and each let-down is more painful. With this addiction the expression ‘actions speak louder than words’ certainly applies. CGs are the masters of manipulation and words ***** for little.
You have written that he has started to put things in place and maybe these are the actions that are giving you hope. What is he doing that is different?
If your son is a CG, as you believe, then he will always be a CG but he can control his addiction and live the most wonderful life. Likewise if he is a CG he does need the right treatment which can be found on this site, in GA or in GMA.
If you have read Worriedmama’s thread then you will have heard my analogy of the addiction being a beast – it has worked for so many and helped many to realise the importance of looking after yourself.
Do you have other children? There is no need to reply but I have a thread entitled ‘Siblings’ which might help and is not far down the forum list. I also have a thread entitled ‘the F&F Cycle’ which I have brought up for you which will hopefully help you realise how easy it is for F&F to become bound up in the addiction and unwittingly enable the CG.
I hope you will keep posting and please talk about ‘you’ because you matter and even though you cannot save your son you can make a big difference to the choice he makes.
Speak soon
Velvet

for Misty when she arrives

For Jane
with apology for not remembering to bring it up last night

V

For Frankie

For Caribbean Blue

for Sandy

I hope this helps

for Northerner because I understand

For Chalsteve

For Collections

You are doing well

Hi Collections
If anybody knew that addiction would be the consequence of innocently gambling, there wouldn’t be a need for a site such as this.
I think you are doing well taking control of your boyfriend’s finances and your boyfriend is lucky to have you on his side.
You cannot save you boyfriend, only he can do that but you can and indeed, you are, supporting him in a healthy way.
I suggest that you download the 20-questions from the Gamblers Anonymous website and ask him to look at them. He is possibly unaware that what he is doing has the power to ruin not only his life but the lives of all those he loves.
I am bringing up my thread entitled ‘The F&F Cycle’ which if hope will help you see the way the addiction goes round and how those who love them can get caught in the loop.
Looking after yourself is incredibly important, if you allow his addiction to control your life then you will be unable to help anybody, so keep your other friendships alive and invest in hobbies and interests that are not gambling related.
It would be great if you could join our live group where we can communicate in real time. Unfortunately I cannot run a group this Thursday so the next one is next Tuesday 30th January between 22.00 -23.00 hours UK time – you will be very welcome.
Speak soon
Velvet

For Yellow Brick road

For Momchait
Sorry I forgot to bring this up when I finished last night – probably due to the snow!

For Sunny

For BV
As promised
Speak soon

for Clare

for JLF

for Ngill

For Momof2

Hope this helps

V

For August

Because you are not alone

For Hesdoingitagain

Hi Horsegirl

I think this will resonate with you

Velvet

For Miss T
You are right when you say that you need support for you. sometimes it helps to know a bit about what happens to you and your b/f when you are caught up in the whirlwind of an addiction

Meanwhile, have a look at some of the other member’s threads – you are not alone.

Velvet

For Yeep because I care

Hi KO

I Hope this helps

For Darija – you have done well sharing

For Lind who is doing well

For Hema – maybe this will help you cope – I hope so

For Evelyn who wants the madness to stop