Gambling Therapy logo
Viewing 4 reply threads
  • Author
    Posts
    • 4 January 2017 at 1:55 pm #35907
      Jxexnx
      Participant

      Hi,

      New member here.

      I’ve read through a few of your posts and decided I’d like to share my story.

      In September I told my partner of my gambling addiction. In the Iast year I had got us into 11k of debt all in my partners name as I don’t have very good credit. Me and my partner had been together for 8 years he had taken on my son when he was 3 as his own we also have a little girl who is 2. We were meant to be saving up for a house but I was secretly gambling it all away. I never meant for it to be like this never thought it was a problem until the last year. Then I was already too far so I was stuck paying back payday loans and still gambling. My partner/ ex partner has now moved back in with his mum and dad. Says he can’t be with me as he doesn’t trust me.
      With the help from his mum and dad he has paid all the debt off. And currently rebuilding his life.

      I currently have not placed a bet in 4 and a half months. My family means the world to me. Am so disappointed with my self. Been waiting 4 months to see a councillor been diagnosed with depression anxiety and panic attacks. Tried anti depressions they didn’t suit me so been with out them for 3 months. Currently got a councillor appointment for next Tuesday. Just feel so alone don’t have any close family was all my partners family and since everything has happened haven’t really spoke to them. Really just me and the 2 kids. I just want my partner and my family back feel so alone. And struggling feel angry at my partner/ex for leaving me when I needed him most. He’s always been my rock we have been through so much together life was happy except my gambling. When we going out as a family or around at his mum and dads it was all good but soon as I was on my own I was gambling.

    • 4 January 2017 at 2:13 pm #68225
      velvet
      Moderator

      Hello Jxexnx and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

      Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you?re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you?re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We?re in this together!

      Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you?re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

      As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

      n

      And on that note….

      I?m going to hand you over to our community because I?m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you ??

      Take care

      The Gambling Therapy Team

      PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

      n
      n

    • 4 January 2017 at 4:07 pm #68226
      i-did-it
      Participant

      HI JX,
      nFirstly well done on not gambling for four and a half months – that’s really brilliant . You messed up but u didn’t kill anyone! You are working hard to put things right .
      nJust hang in there and look after yourself .
      n
      nWe all make mistakes – I am sure your partner had made some too in his life.
      nDon’t be too hard on yourself – keep working on your recovery.
      nYou might find the support groups useful -they are on in the evenings and you get to chat to others who have made similar mistakes.
      nYou could maybe reach out to one of your partner’s family – sounds like you got in very well with them and I’m sure they too knwo what it’s like to make a mistake !

    • 4 January 2017 at 7:17 pm #68227
      Jxexnx
      Participant

      Thanks for getting back to me, can’t really reach out to them they have loads of other stuff going on don’t feel like I can add to the stress they already have and if they wanted to be part of my life surly they would have contacted me by now. Will have a look at the group chats. Each day seem to get harder and harder just feel so alone with no one to talk to and the pressure of 2 kids. Just want my family back so much

    • 4 January 2017 at 9:57 pm #68228
      i-did-it
      Participant

      So glad u made it to group JX- u are doing ok u know-
      nHope u feel are feeling better –
      nU will get to know people on here and that wil be a great source of support for u – people who have been there and know how hard it can be
      nKeep strong !

Viewing 4 reply threads
  • You must be logged in to reply to this topic.