Hi Mav, well done on coming back here.

What is wrong with you? You have an addiction?

What will help? Well the things which helped you stop gambling before. You can do it again. This time though remember to keep using support to maintain recovery.

Back to basics, keep posting, get to groups.

The debts need to be addressed. You are in teh UK so you have lots of options. Talk to Stepchange or the Citizens Advice Bureau and they will help you get to a manageable position financially.

Of course sorting the finances out is of little use if we carry on gambling so let us know the positive steps youa re taking, teh barriers you are putting in place.

So. Three options:

1 – suicide (easy way out. Permanent solution to a temporary problem (if you really want it)). Worst option.

2 – feel bad for a while and then gamble when you have recovered from the last loss, and then give gambling another shot.

3 – my favorite. Tell gambling to go suck a cucumber. Be just a little stronger…even if it’s just 55.0001 %, and let go of that futile and destructive illness in our brains that is rightfully described and literally, diagnosed as compulsive gambling.

I choose #3, and I hope you do too.

Believe it or not (I’ve witnessed it) that at one point, after you’ve given up this nonsense that is gambling, you’ll be forgiven by your loved ones. Impossible to imagine, but true.

Trust me. I’m you. You’re me, when it comes to this seemingly impossible feat we have to accomplish.

I’m at day 42. Nothing to pat myself on the back for and I’m not. However, I do know one thing: life goes by in a blink. 42 may as well be 4200. Maybe not financially, but emotionally, it does.

You’ll be fine. Or you won’t.

How determined are you to take this shit one day at a time? How tough are you?

By reaching out for something other than what your self-inclination is, which is self-destruction, it would appear that you’re willing and ready…and strong enough to fight against the moments of „weakness“.

Trust is yourself and…time. You will never „earn“ your money back by gambling. Good. It’s a fool’s paradise anyway.

The most sound piece of advice in your newfound STRENGTH (!), trust what Charles has to say. His sound pieces of advice aren’t fun to hear, but they’re pretty damn close to being more than needed.

Dan,
Your comments are right on.. Nobody is going to worry about us, we need to make ourselves better. Gambling is a choice. Always was, always will be. The urge can get overwhelming, but is never truly uncontrollable ( unless we let it be ) I am on day 50ish as of this writing, I have found huge support on this forum, and when I was in day 7 to 10 I was looking forward to gambling “ the right way“…but now as I am further into my acceptance of my issues, I know there will never be a right way…. There have been too many explosions in the past, to think it will never happen again if I gamble… But rest assured the only way to make sure it doesnt happen again is NOT to do it….. One day…. Advice to Maverick…one day… don’t gamble today. tomorrow, do the same thing…Everything else will begin to get better, once you do not stand in it’s way.