Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

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I?m going to hand you over to our community because I?m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you ??

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Chasing losses is to some people the definition of problem gambling. Knowing when to stop is not in our nature. We don’t want to stop – because we can’t think of anything that we would rather do with the money than have the „thrill“ of another bet.
nIf you read the threads in this forum you will see what you need to do to stop gambling. Cut yourself off from places where you gamble – ban yourself, or block on-line sites as soon as you can. Cut yourself off from the access to money. No more loans – cut up your cards – carry as little money as you need for day to day life. I think it would be wise to let your family know. I know it will be difficult and you will feel ashamed – but I don’t know anyone who has managed to quit gambling alone and good family support will really help. It is possible that someone in your family can carry your finances for you until you are strong enough to resist the bets.
nIn any event you need to get good support for yourself. This link https://gamblersinrecovery.com will give you access to the times of Gamblers‘ Anonymous meetings in different countries. As many of them are on zoom now – it is possible to join one on-line which may be hosted on the other side of the world. Other than that you can see if you can get counselling through your medic or a local support group.
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nPlease don’t live in denial. It was a year’s savings. I gambled a whole house away and loans that I was still paying back 20 years later. Nip this in the bud. Do these things now. I wish you well.

Hi Wanjohi thank you for sharing your story. I know the feeling of shame and guilt and hiding. It is very scary to have to tell your loved ones about your problem but it will be a huge relief for yourself when you do. Regardless of the outcome, whether they accept you and forgive you or not. I think part of overcoming the addiction is facing your fears and being open and sharing. The consequences of our actions are there waiting for us no matter what. The only question is when do we want to face them?