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Hi My name is Taz, I am 37 and a CG. I have been gambling for over 16 years on and off.
It’s getting to a stage where I go on a binge and not stop until I loose every last penny.
I want to stop gambling any help will be much appreciated.
I have gambled all my salary with money left for rent and bills, wife doesn’t know yet, I haven’t got the courage to tell her as she is aware of my addiction and we always have big arguments about it.
Any advice to help will be much appreciated.
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Hello Taz and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
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I assume you have blown money needed for bills etc. So when they are not paid your wife is going to find out. You both need to be clear with eachother. You both need to get support, you for your addiction and your wife in how to be with you. Check if there is GA Gamanon or similar in your area and make the call together. No secrets, no lies. You have a problem and both of you need to face up to it. I wish you well.
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Good to meet you in the Group earlier, Taz.
I agree with Steev. Both parties need support.
Non CGs find it difficult to get their head around the chaos a gambler creates. Big arguments fudge the issue .
Don’t drip feed your wife with the truth. It only causes mistrust.
Well done on looking for help.
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Hi everyone,
I am back again, this year has been worse for gambling, been doing it every day or week. Here in UK ￡2 bet limit was introduced in April, I blowed all my March salary before the last day. Gambled online on my credit cards, my debt has tripled in the last 3 months. Today I have self excluded myself from all the local book makers, have self excluded myself online by registesterinh with gamstop. I am not sure how I can find a cure with no support from family and friends. My wife doesn’t even talk to me about it, we don’t talk about money, she is aware of my gambling addiction however treats me like a normal person which I believe I am not. I have cut all my credit cards today.
Don’t know where to go from here…
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Hi taz,
Where you go from here…
though it seems like youre in a loop of gambling and regret, it CAN stop. It starts with saying to yourself “no more!”
Take one day at a time to focus on your recoverY. Open upto your wife because she needs to know and will help you to put obstacles in your way to stop you from gambling
but it starts with yourself, you actually wanting to stop and placing obstacles in place, including transfering your salary to a close one’s account until u have had enough GF days to think rationally about this habit.
Stopping will allow you be clear of the haze that gambling creates and really look good and hard at your financial situatio, your life and yourself. It’s only then that you can repair, rebuild and find peace of mind
I wish you many many more GF days
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Today was day 40 GF.
Reading about the recent re-lapses of other forum members makes me sad, we all have to stay strong and be patient.
The two main outcomes of gambling are regret and debt, I cannot change the past however I can design my GF future.
Regret and debt will clear as time passes by however I cannot afford to have a slip up. -
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Not gambling will give you a much better win than any bet you can make at any point. Read about those people and their big wins and you can bet they have or will lose twice that amount . There is no real big win when you gamble. Its a series of wins and losses that usually does not favor the individual, and if you are a CG, then even if you win you will give it all back. Think about that.
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I would never have thought I could go without gambling for 60 days including two paydays. I am pleased with myself and I can feel the change in my whole life style the positive energy.
Reading through the journal and hearing about re lapses makes me doubt myself how long before the devil comes knocking back.
I have to stay strong and keep going, have the belief in me that I am never going to gamble ever again.
I don’t wanna go back to being stressed thinking about gambling all the time, I wanna stay GF for as long as it takes.
Wishing you all the very best for your recovery and GF life. -
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Been busy, didn’t get the chance to post.
No gambling thoughts, I get regular emails from casinos saying I have loyalty points which I can claim by logging in, I can’t change my preferences without logining in.
Still concentrating on not to gamble as I have realised with a GF life I can do and achieve much more.
All the best for everyone stay blessed and gamble free.. -
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