[Addictioniskillingme]

Hi everyone , my name is Jake . I am 24 years old and I know I am a compulsive gambler.

I came on this website as I feel I’m at the end of my control with gambling . I have been gambling on mostly FOBT machines in bookmakers on roulette, many times I have lost everything plus more with debts and even selling all my possessions to go ahead and lose the same day, this has ruined relationships with my family and past girlfriend because of the lies I have told them and the misery I have become . I have no friends and don’t socialise and the only thing I tend to get involved in around people is when I’m I’m gambling my money.

I believe I have a addiction personality in life where if I do something I have to go all out plus more , for example I enjoy going to the gym and if I have gone through a 6 month stage of no gambling and just the gym. It has to be everyday diet 24/7 everyday gym, but when gambling is involved then it is gambling on my mind all the time .

Sometimes I think I can not think about gambling and this is true, but at the time I would have no money so is this just because I physically can’t gamble?

I would like to get to grips with this addiction , and think I have to cut it out completely but feel can there be a way to carry on gambling as the roulette machines have got a hold on me but when it comes to football bets I can easily put a couple of pound on a accumulator without bothering if it wins or loses .

Or is this completely the wrong way to go about it?

I really really just want a life where I can support , be kind and generous to my family and girlfriend . I feel this has made me miss out on meeting friends and having experiences with people as now I feel paranoid and socially awkward. Is this due to gambling ? Please help
Thank you for listening

[Dunc]

Hello  and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing.  We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support.  We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment.  The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward.  So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

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And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you ??

Take care

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[Monica1]

Hi Jappy799. you are in the right place. Youth is on your side. This addiction will just get worse and worse. It does not get better and we are fooling ourselves if we ever think we can ever gain any control over it. The first step is to tell someone and admit that we are powerless over gambling and that our lives have become unmanageable. I am now 30 days i to recovery and this addiction has taken me to destitution. compulsive gamblers never win and if you think it is bad now, keep going and each time you have a big blowout how we feel just gets worse and worse until we make the decision that we really no longer want to feel like this and stop. Compulsive gamblers never win. A big win is always a loss.

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