Hello,
I was in the same boat as you. Now 19 years together and married for 12 he made all the promises your future husband is making. Really think about it. He promised it would stop when we had kids…they are here and one is almost 9 years old. It still has not stopped.
I don’t want to tell you what to do or be negative but think long and hard. It is an addiction like any other. Without help it doesn’t change or just go away. The secrets you keep from others and your kids and family to make everything seem ok are not worth it.