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Hi Vera, thanks for your post…
I started work on the 10th – 3 days in and going strong… travel is a bit long each way but the goal is to get back into full time work and its becoming easier???all good… and glad to read about your saving still going strong.. I plan to do something similar… going to go on the support group now…
speak soon
PaulI’m catching up on all the posts and goings-on in the life of us CG’s… i hope you enjoy your hols and reading your blogs it helps me understand that I should always be looking to change going forward…knowing that you are changing and going on a nice holiday gives me inspiration..i hope you have a great time…
Hi Twnmum
you are not alone….
there are thousands of people who never make it this far but you have started a process – the one of acknowledgement… you can change from being addicted to being in recovery and this site can really help… I know.I have had a lot of troubles because of my gambling and I can see you have too…. you are not alone…
get to the forums as often as you can … they helped me and maybe they will help you… you can do it if you really want to.
its a good place to start… I hope to see you there.Paul
you are not alone..I am sorry to hear of your difficulties
Hi,
firstly well done for acknowledging you have a problem… you are not alone and you are at a site that really can make a difference… I was lost 6 months ago and I have been able to change… its still a long road ahead but I started here too…join the forums – they are good… you need to make the effort if you want to change… its not easy but there is always help if you need it or want it… gambling ruined my past life… its a losers life…
keep going my Compulsive gambler – you can change and you are not alone…
Paul
Nothing can replace the positivity I get from this site… every gambler or recovery gambler is enabled with positive thoughts on how we can become gamble free….
I will continue to post and will try to join the ex-residents group but it is at an awkward time of day when I will be at work… shame there is not an evening one!
I will also be aware of complacency- this is a very important part of my recovery…
thanks..Today, I was offered employment full-time.,, I start in a week. I feel excited and happy that I have been given a chance to change my life….Now the hard work will begin…
Its a new start, a start where I can become a great Dad to my princess. I was taught “life is choices” we make. I can lead a gamble free life if I put in place the preparations…and its really important to put in place, make the plans and prepare for changes as I move forward. Two main things I need to do now… set up a new bank account in preparation for my salary and my friend ( already agreed) to look after this and secondly, to start to rebuild my social life… My job offers me 50% discounted gym membership, that is the first thing done.
I do understand as a recovering gambler, I need to replace my gambling with social events and its not just about work. I have re-read my journal tonight and I have acknowledged where I was 6 months ago and where I am now… I have the ability to change but I need to keep the change going…
Life is the choices we make…. I choose gamble free….
Hi Richpiana123,
“you are not alone”.
I started at this site, with total despair, with total loss of family and friends, with loss of everything including houses, cars and a well paid job… this is what gambling addicts do…. you are not alone…if you want to change and I mean really want to change your life around, then you should try the GMA residential programme. They know what they are doing and they know how to help to change your life around…. coming here is a good start and is a good place to talk to fellow CG’s but if you really want to make a difference to your life you need to make a decision that will change it forever – go and really learn how to become gamble free – I did and it works if you want it too….
join the forums – they are great too…
you are not alone and you can make it happen..
hope to see you in a forum… you have taken a positive step, keep going …
Paul
I have recently completed the GMA programme and had a short stay in the half way house too…
I can honestly say, its the best place to change your life around if you really want too… i have tried GA, private consulting etc.. a residential treatment works… i am happy and content and aiming to lead a gamble free life – no i dont have a cure, i will always be a recovery gambler, i will always need to keep working hard but it will get easier and easier…
We have gambled for a long time and like me, you may have ruined everything but this programme will give you the chance to be reborn…Good luck… if you focus and make the effort to change , it can happen – the therapists are brilliant, all the staff are brilliant…trust in them and you can lead a gamble free life.
Well done for starting to change…
Paul
Hi, to all of you that replied to my last update – Thank you, thank you, thank you…
I have now left GMA half way house, as I am on the road to full-time employment… it was a little quicker than i anticipated but I need to take this opportunity… I wish that I took a little more time, the half way house is there for a reason.
so onward and upwards… life is choices and I am so much happier being gamble free…I have been home a week and about to go back today for the start of my 6 week half-way recovery… what a 14 weeks I have had – yes, lots of downs, lots of things I needed to address – family mot importantly, friends, daughter, ex – yes there was a long list – people I had hurt, given pain too but the building blocks are there for me to rebuild and rebuild what I had damaged… and then of course straightening out my finances…
its hard, tough at times but they know what they are doing – all the staff are there to help us… and I am reborn – I am going to be able to lead a gamble free life if I continue to learn from the tools given to me, if I don’t become complacent and if I make the right choices in my life- “life is choices” – we don’t need to gamble…
THANK YOU GMA… xxxx
ANYONE wanting to change their life around should definitely apply to go to the GMA residential course and it can happen if you focus and want it change…Thank you Vera- your messages, support and advice have been extremely helpful…
God bless you…
You are not alone.You are not alone .
You have done the lot but you keep going back !- like me, like all of us on this site – if there was one thing that I would advise you to do – keep coming to this site, every night – join the groups, listen to the people who are gamble free and ACT on their advice – I am learning this, you have to “listen to the people who have become gamble free”…
if you don’t – you will keep on gambling and become a man that is like me, you lose your house, i;ve lost 2, blow over 500k , lose your family and friends and then have nothing by the time you are 50 – and have a child who needs you but you have nothing to give….
Join the groups…. trust me , it is a good place to start – the people are great at listening, great at helping and ACT on their advice…. this is the best place to get daily help and that is what we CG’s need… daily support to start recovery. You need to do this for you, no one else – YOU.
You are not alone.
Paul
last week was one of my toughest week’s and I buried myself , rolled up into a ball and felt despair at what I had done with my life – I went to church again on Tuesday, found the courage to speak with the priest and asked if I could have some time with him, he said come back tomorrow!
I did, I did not get the answers I was looking for! I know that I am not going to find it in church – I know that I have another path, albeit with God , with Jesus and with our Virgin Mary… I was upset with the priest, his lack of time for me was depressing , particularly that his excuse was he needed to do his financial books – how ironic! for me that was ironic!!.. God works in mysterious ways but I will never lose the faith in him.I was also told I would have to wait till April to go onto GMA. That was a thought I found hard to take but there was light – the light came from this site and talking with Monique – on Wednesday – she helped me, she enabled me to have patience, to accept my path is a long one, a hard one, a path that I needed to take step by step….
this week on Tuesday I received a call – a place at GMA became available and would I like to take it starting Monday 6th March – I said YES, definitely -> I want to change my life around, I want to make a better life, I want to enjoy the times with my daughter that I don’t at the moment because of my demon…. I need to think of me first, get this gambling horror out and put to bed and then I can concentrate on making things right with my lovely daughter…
I am very excited, I have been making preparations for Monday – I will make the most of the very fortunate opportunity – I will listen and learn – I WANT to have a GAMBLE FREE LIFE…. and I know it will take a lot of hard work – this is a horrible addiction, we all have to work really hard at this but this site has really helped me…
Love to all of you for helping me these last few weeks, thank you for your support, advice and just being there— you have saved me… even people I have not spoken to , reading their messages tell me I am not alone in this nightmare – I will come back in 14 weeks, I will change my life around and I will become a gamble free person… I know that GMA is not a cure but I need help, tools to put my demon to sleep and keep him sleeping forever…
Thank you Charles and Monique for all your Group hosting – they are and were excellent – you are a credit to this site and to helping CG’s like me….
Thank you my friends – May God be with you all and help us all …
Paulthank you for all your posts in my journal – as a fellow CG I want to tell you that YOU have helped me, you have given me inspiration and YOU have motivated me that I can climb….
we all have challenges , we all have moments to wanting to gamble and I haven’t yet been able to hold onto that ladder or rope to pull me up but I am not falling deeper and that’s important – its slow , its really hard but I am not falling deeper… I know that I wont be cured but I can change ….
you may find it hard but I will say a prayer for you, so you can continue your journey of climbing …
bw
Paul