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Hi Vera,
Thanks for the post. Was nice to see the email and note that someone wanted to wish me well.Yep still G free and on 87 days. Got 2x separate 1 week holidays abroad to look forward to in June & July!
Still with my current job but enjoying it a lot more now and getting lots more responsibility as the months go by. I guess thats because they are seeing im pretty capable.
Loss still plays on my mind but by pay day next week I will have ￡300 worked back!
Hope your well!R
Hi,
Not been on here for a while. Don’t believe my last post was 22 it’s day 43 now. Feeling better about lots of stuff but my main big loss still plays on my mind and especially how much of a collosal waste of money it all was! I hope I can honestly say it was just a phase but I guess the fear of it not being is why I’m on here.I’m currently addressing some self confidence issues that have come to light. They are not a direct result of gambling but the gambling didn’t really help. Basically I’m trying to look at things in a new more positive way and say “he’ll yeah I can do what they are doing, I can do it too and just as well”. Part of that mindset is “trying” for a new career. I skipped the uni part so may go down the military route. Self confidence is what has put me off before, the thought of being with large groups of other competing guys and proving myself. Anyway scree that and I’m going to give it a go. If I get through selections great and if not at least I can say I tried and I will be able to fall back on my already good job I have at least.
Overtime is going decent, I will have ￡200 at the end of the month I hope. Only another ￡1000 to go to make up what I lost in a few hours. #IDIOT! Anyways it will all add up and I can use it for what it was supposed to be for in 2017 if all stays well.
Sorry I don’t post on other diaries as much on here, I am always on GamCare so don’t get much chance with this site but I do like coming on for my diary posts. Cheers people
Thanks for the above advice. Really is good to hear. Definitely going to look to do the casino exclusion. As I go all round the country if I did it for a chain it would help massively. Then it would be 1 more barrier. The thing with casinos is from the outside they look like good fun and glamorous which I’ve learnt they are not!
Started overtime and enjoying it in a weird way. In the office on my own lets me be really productive and I can listen to whatever music I want which is a bonus!
Just dawning on me how much work was involved in regaining the amount lost! Kind of demoralising but in a years time it will be all ok if I stick at it.
Have a good weekend !Not much to say really….
Away with work again on my own but at least I’m busy.
Been to the gym again tonight I go 3 times a week at the minute. The gym makes me think through my losses a lot to my annoyance. Don’t know why it does but I’m there doing weights and just running through my head over and over. Mainly about wasted cash ￡! No clue why this is and must have been doing that every time since 20/1/2016 when I got my realisation of what I was DOING!Night people. Hope everyone is good!
Way too many casinos in the uk! Been driving around all day today and seen 3grovenor casinos! Gotta admit i still find it hard at the moment to not go in their and hope it’s my luck day! If i went into even a high street bookies I don’t think I could resist at the moment. The best thing I can do is not let myself get into that situation and stay out on the street and pretty much mentally put my fingers up to them!
Anyways Day 19 pretty much done completely free.
I will hit this year and I will make back what I’ve lost in a positive way.A mixed day today. Been in the office at least. Not tomorrow though…
Happy at points and looking forward to starting overtime hopefully this week but still constantly thinking about what a fool I’ve been!
I have been moody this weekend too with my girlfriend which is annoying me and I feel bad now I think back on it. I was taking out on her the fact that I’m tight for holidays this year due to my stupid flutter.
But in time I can move on financially at least if I work on staying away from this situation. I’m determined to have saved through this year to be not worrying about next years plans when it comes around. Also set myself the goal to have a house / apartment by 25. That’s realistic if I carry on my isa to get my deposit! Anyways time to watch the football. Hope everyone is sweet and G Free!Thanks Vera,
This and gam care are great places to be. They bring it home to you that gambling is not needed in your life and as soon as you can get that straight the better! Patience is something I’m working on for sure.
Might even go to a GA meeting in the next few weeks just to help me not go back to anything. Hope your good Vera and thanks for following my ramble.Hi dude,
I’m guessing ur from the US as your using $ I’m from the uk and in the same boat as you pal.
I started work at 18 now been working full time for over a year and realised I’ve saved jack shit! Not good when there’s expensive things in your life your expected to have saved up
for e.g deposit on a house!I’m actually on 20k as of next month so time to change! I’ve also gambled sizeable amounts of my paychecks recently! Not to mention January when I spent the lot in a few hours! That’s 1.2k! I’ve just worked out an overtime plan to work hard and get this back mentally justifying losses so feeling ok again now.
Anyway back to you. I advise you to see your bank and speak to them about saving plans available to you. Here in the uk we have a new thing called a help to buy ISA I’m now putting ￡200 a month in that and when it’s time to buy the government add 25% what I’ve saved.
Also cut all ties to gambling. Someone just wrote to me and said all the guys living the high life in Lambos and Ferraris etc would never be living that if they were messing around with gambling! The house always wins and I get that now!If you do the two things I’ve said above by seeking help in those ways you will feel like progress is being made and you can move on from this.
I’ll be keeping a look at your progress and wish you well mate. Keep posting.
A good evening this has turned out to be! Well a good day to be fair. Was raining outside like mad and for the first time in a few weeks I was in the office catching up and not on a site somewhere in the uk! And the best bit I’ve got that extra income to cover losses sorted!
My current job heard about me talking about needing extra work so offered me overtime at least 1 night a week in the office catching up with outstanding work at 4 hours ￡30! That x4 gets me my required amount if I give it time!
Feeling better after this and now I’m ready and able to move on and not think about chasing losses. My enjoyment regarding gambling has gone as a result of what it has done to me and made me feel over these last 2 months!
I’m going to sleep happy for a change!Still no look on this job hunt for job 2 but still no bets which is good! Don’t even want to anymore!
At the moment I feel like I can move on when I have this job and not look back but I guess I can only judge that in a years time.
Hope everyone’s goodThanks for the words Vera. definitely will look into GA just to see how people move on from the past.
On day 8 completely free now that I’ve stopped all forms of gambling. Been way over a month since my big cock up!
Keeping my chin up on the 2nd job front. Tried a petrol station but nothing….Will keep trying. When I have the belief that I will be the job my mood is much impreoved. I’m just looking forward to hopefully a year or just over a year where I have a good amount of money saved up that covers or is over gambling losses. This figure would be all as a result of hard work which would be all the more rewarding! I will be making sure if I get there I do something worthwhile with what I’ve saved for a change!
From feeling positive last night it’s now negative! Went to this restaurant where I had that job opportunity and they didn’t seem able to offer me any hours during the week after 5 on a Monday to Thursday when I’m free!
All I wanted to do then was go to the Mark Jarvis local bookies and try and win something on the roullete FOBT as obviously trying to be honest isn’t working! 2 opportunities for extra work and both have bailed on me now! I was actually feeling like I was making progress with finances and now I’m back to square 1 feeling like shit! The only positive is that I haven’t gambled anything yet….
Oh and guess what my lotto / euromillions from earlier in the week didn’t even win anything so no help there either! So pissed off!! I just want a way to make me feel like I am making progress and to help me with money I’ve wasted on this bollocks!
WARNING BIG RANT ABOVE …..Hi,
From Friday 26th Feb I’ve started this gamble free 365 day journey! No lotto and no anything! I’ve not been online gambling or at the bookies since January 20/21st so been getting on ok without that but wasn’t technically fully gamble free as must have bought half a dozen lotto tickets at least!
Don’t want to swap one addiction for another!
Got a trial shift at this bar near me next week I hope because then I can do extra work that will allow me to get my money back. This feels like getting my money back and it will help me stop thinking about all the things I could have done with the lost money. My GF says i shouldn’t put myself out to get this money back and I should just save up my current jobs money but if I work 2 jobs the money from job 2 is progress money and its money I wouldn’t have been earning if it wasn’t for this cock up as motivation so it’s not gonna be money I would have had anyways. If that makes sense!
The whole thing about realising you have a problem is
A-stopping
B-justifying it (life lesson)
C-fixing it! Having plans in placeHi,
Just checking in!
Feeling better things are looking up a little bit! The way to keep it like that Is definitely to avoid the gamble!I’m hopefully getting my old job back at the bar working a night a week! Within a year I should have losses back or near enough back in an honest John type way!
If I do hit that year and save the money maybe i will do something with the money that I should have done instead of gambling it away! From March I’m gonna be totally clean! Cut out lotto tickets and avoid scratchcards! Try and go the full 365! If I don’t make that it will be because of the masters in April! Betting on that is sort of tradition but we will see!Anyways now I have a way to re-coup my **** up I feel a bit better and in 1 yrs time I may be able to say I learnt a lot from that whole experience! Plus my value for money should increase as I would have had to work hard for 1 year to get what I pissed away in a matter of hours.
Gonna be counting the days again from March 1st! That’s when I begins for real!
Night