[sarahluna88]

One thing that frightens me at the moment, is the next payment day when i get my money. (30th every month)
Thats the time what will show if my mind will be clear and strong enough to stand the urge to gamble.
I will try to come continually to this platform and write down my sorrows and other stuff which comes through my mind. Thanks to the People who do the same and read that ??

[sarahluna88]

Well done. I also learned in many moments that telling people the real truth, is the best choice you can make.
Its the only way to allow them that they really can see YOU.
Every single human beeing has things and problems make someone struggle, and knows how it feels running against the same walls. When you show others who you really are, you’ll get this support now, which you might had needed in the past,when youre strarted getting an addict. Such expiriences can be very powerful. They can clean up a bit of the grief and sadness and give you a bit of trust in yourself. I’m happy to read your post ??

[sarahluna88]

Hi Kin ??, i’m happy that i found this forum. I have installed the gamban App and got access to this Page. I’m from tirol (Austria) and here are no gambling addiction help groups. To write here seems to help me a lot. And helps me to stay on the straight way i want to stay. How do you do in your life at the moment?

[sarahluna88]

I hope youre still here to find Support youre looking for. I’m writing nearly every day at the moment. When you want to talk more about this topic, i’m happy to get a response from you ??

[sarahluna88]

I’ve blocked myself over the time nearly at 300 online casinos (??????)
cause I tried to fight them on this way. But nearly every day there opens a new online casino and i will never win the fight on this path.
I spent days just looking lists of new casinos, registering me there and instanly Block me. But thats the wrong approach to this problem.

I really think the most important thing is, to set limits in daily life. Not beeing a good listener to evryone who wants me to listen.

When youre a emphatic person, you feel when somebody needs help, and you maybe claim yourself to help others, cause thats the way you would like to have it when you need help.

I’m such a Person. I always looked out for others and their needs, listened over hours to their problems. And after that Sarah (me) needed the online slot to “clear” my full head from all that.

In the last few days i realised that i need to set limits in my life. (I never did, also in casino never)
i need to know my energylevel every moment, i need to recognice every new day how i feel that day and what i could give or not.

Its not a great problem to say “no” to others, when you say it the right way. Its ok. First you need to help yourself, in other way you become a problem for your loved ones- like when your addiction is so bad that family gets co-addicted.
We are in similar situations, but i really think there is a way out of there ??

[sarahluna88]

I know your situation very well.. maybe it might be the right decicion to tell your girlfriend about, your problem. Cause she probably feels that there is something wrong with you, and youre hiding something. My boyfriend feeld aboutly that something ist there, that i am not showing to him. This topic creates a emotional distance between you and her. As i told my boyfriend, it felt like a big wall broke down that i have built up over the time. It makes it more Real. my mom told me once, “Truth can always be told to everyone everytime”. Everything else is an Illusion. To stop gambling, one really important step is to show your problem to the people arround you. I read a lot about it, and that is the point i always read by everyone who got away from problem gambling.. my english is not the best im from Austria;)

[sarahluna88]

Thanks to the admin “Antonio” for the fast response.

It’s all about learnig to Set Limits- the one thing i never have been able to do in casinos.

But that might be the general problem of an addicted person. People who set their Limits in casino, and accept them without looking for next casino when Limit full used.
these People maybe also have no problems in their daily life limiting other People and their needs, and regcognice the own needs.

My aunt told me yesterday “the task is not to deal with all needs of the People arround you (and run once a week to the therapist who helps handle that stuff), it is to set boundaries which help you not feel overloaded”..

She might be right with it. Maybe this perspective is the right one for me and my personality.

[sarahluna88]

Ich kann so gut nachvollziehen wie es dir geht, ich hab letzte Woche an einem Tag “zurück” gewonnen was ich die Monate zuvor verzockt hatte an slots. Es gibt immer wieder mal einen Tag, wo man nur gewinnt egal was man tut. Ich hab viel nachgedacht warum das wohl so ist. Und man will mehr. Gerade wenn man gewinnt triggert einen das richtig hart. Ich neige auch dazu meine Rechnungen zu bezahlen und das notwendige zu kaufen bevor ich spiele, aber ich verzocke alles was ich zur Verfügung habe um ein sch?nes Leben zu haben. Mir erscheint dies als eine Art selbst Bestrafung. M?glicherweise hat das mit meiner grundlegend negativen Einstellung zum Geld zu tun, ich wei? es nicht. Aber vermutlich ist es mehr die Flucht vor den Emotionen mit denen ich nicht klar komme. Ich habe immer geglaubt, ich habe keine Angst, mittlerweile glaube ich eher ich habe keinen Zugang diese Angst zu fühlen. Hoffentlich ist es ok in deutsch zu antworten, hab gesehen du bist Schweizer:)

I can understand how you feel, one day last week I “won back” what I had lost on slot machines the months before. There is always a day when you just win, no matter what you do. I’ve thought a lot about why that is. And you want more. Especially when you win, it hits you really hard. I also tend to pay my bills and buy essentials before I play, but I gamble away everything I need to live a good life. To me this seems like a form of self-punishment. Maybe it has something to do with my fundamentally negative attitude towards money, I don’t know. But it’s probably more of an escape from the emotions I can’t handle. I always thought I wasn’t afraid, but now I think I no longer have access to feeling that fear. Hopefully it’s ok to answer in German, I saw you’re Swiss ??

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