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I’m only able to pay off my gambling debts, as I’ve sold shares worth ￡25000. I’ve lost another ￡25,000 in savings and ￡25,000-￡30,000 in winnings.
Enough is enough.
I now have a house I own and very little else. Life is difficult enough, there’s no point in making it more difficult.Haven’t really been gambling, was just having a break from here. I’m away on holiday soon, so just sorting things for that.
Looking forward to a couple of weeks off work and a change of scenery.
I’m concentrating on paying my credit cards etc off. Sold shares, which means I’ll pretty much be debt free.
Will get the money from that and pay off the rest of my debt.
I couldn’t have tried to pay them off over the next few years, but this way is easier, as I will literally be starting from nothing again.How are you getting on? Haven’t been on here much the last week, been busy finishing off things at work and getting ready to go away, so haven’t even been reading much.
Pathetic as it is, went and placed a bet due to boredom/arguing with my girlfriend etc.
Put on ￡500, won ￡1300, placed another ￡300 bet and lost, then banked ￡1000.
Perhaps walking away when I’m up is part of my recovery, I wouldn’t have done this previously. I would have lost the winnings and then tried to chase it.
I’m wanting to get to a point where I’m not gambling at all, but I’m not there yet. That would have been 3 weeks gamble free tomorrow, instead it’ll be day 1.I almost caved in today, but the financial risk is too great due to a long list of previous monumental (expensive) **** ups.
Guess it doesn’t matter how we stop, as long as we stop.Another site today, had a few bets lined up, but haven’t gambled or deposited money into my account.
The temptation is still there, but I’m thinking about the negativity gambling has caused me, the financial difficulty it’s brought me and it’s not worth the risk.Good to hear on the not gambling front.
I’m still tempted in a way, but not going to give in.I realise no good would come of gambling again.
Will attempt to stay strong and not cave in, cheers.I wish you all the best my friend.
Maybe it’s best to try and not understand at times.
I’ve been reading with interest and posting for a couple of weeks odd now on the site. There’s lots of good advice given and I think we are all aware of what we should and shouldn’t do re compulsive gambling, yet we have all came here.
There isn’t an easy fix sadly. For what it’s worth, reading your journal and comments/advice has been a benefit to me.Cheers,
SteveAgreed.
I think it’s also important to remember that being a compulsive gambler/hopefully ex gambler doesn’t define who you are. From a personal view, this time I wasn’t gambling in a destructive way and hadn’t been prior to Sep/Oct last year.
It’s easy to forget that and get caught up in the severity of the situation due to the impact it has. There’s the debt aspect and how it impacts on relationships. Both in a very negative way as you know.Hope you are well.
I’m looking on sites/at scores less regularly, but I was wanting to be honest in my previous post re what had been happening.
The money I receive next week will be paying off a credit card, so there will be nothing to gamble with.
I’m currently in a similar position to yourself where it will take me years to pay back what I owe. Gambling again would only make that worse.My last bet was Wed 4th May. I’m still checking betting sites regularly for scores etc and thinking what I would have put on. I realise this is unhealthy, even though I’m not putting any bets on – partly due to self exclusion and also having no money to gamble with. I’ve had a bit of a rude awakening due to the obscene amounts I’ve lost/wasted and have nothing (other than debt) to show for it. It’s taken a period of not gambling to realise how much my mood was affected by my compulsive gambling. I’m feeling good about not gambling, but the debt I owe is acting as a different pressure/burden. I get a few thousand next week. Suppose my plan is to pay off one credit card and see where I am after that. The irony of the situation is that I had really good savings prior to gambling and didn’t particularly need the money and I’m now in a in a position where I would love to have my savings back and the winnings in the bank. I think I will have to look for more hours at work in order to meet my credit card repayments etc.
It’s strange, because if you ask me now I realise I couldn’t sustain what I was doing, but when you are caught up in it logic goes out the window. I’m at a stage where I’m going to be fu￡ked financially for a number of years and for what?
I have a few thousand coming my way next week, the temptation is to try and make some more through betting, but I realise that isn’t the answer. I’ve self excluded from sites, so hopefully won’t do anything silly.Read through your journal today and a lot of your experiences are very similar to my own. Cheers for posting on mine.
I’m in my mid thirties, used to gamble occasionally on games of football and started to gamble in a harmful way in Sep last year. I was ￡25000 up. Now at the stage where I’ve lost that, another ￡25000 in savings and now have around ￡20,000 debt on credit cards loans. I would go through a cycle of being up and then losing and chasing my losses. I haven’t gambled for a week, but this is more down to not having funds more than anything else. I definitely experienced the money not being ‘real’. It’s def real when you are paying off credit cards though!
Just wanted to say all the best.I have no anger or resentment. What’s happened has happened and I’m dealing with it. This site has and will continue to be a big help, so thank you all who have posted.
I really wouldn’t like what happened to me, to happen to others. The sad fact is that it will though.The bottom line is they do the bare minimum. There’s probably a legal requirement to have a nod to the various agencies who help problem gamblers. I remember being asked a series of questions on one site to try and determine if I was a problem gambler. My deposits/withdrawals and bets provided the answer. The amount I was betting was also a giveaway. The highest bet I had placed prior to Aug/Sep last year was ￡150, the highest I’ve placed to date is ￡13,000. They make it difficult enough to withdraw winnings due to security checks/proving identity etc, so why are there no questions asked when you deposit/gamble large amounts?
I’m not overlooking the fact I have/had a problem, but perhaps these sites should have more of a duty of care.
I’m clearly not alone in my experience/behaviour, so the same thing will happen again to others.