[dote09]

I’m a responsible son to my parents, a good boyfriend to my girlfriend, caring elder brother to my siblings and life couldn’t be any happier. I was helping my family in leading a luxurious life after I graduated from my college and took up a great paying job. Everything was so perfect until online betting happened to me. It all started in 2012 when I saw one of my colleagues in the office betting on a cricket match. I started off with a small bet of 5$, made some good money initially and then slowly I started raising my bets to get the rush. I started losing money as I was doing in-play betting and before I knew, I lost 2000$. 2000$ was still a small/affordable amount for me back then. But the biggest mistake I did was chasing my loss. I even made a recovery at one point and quickly lost it all again. I lost more money, this time I swiped my credit card. I then started burning my money that I saved to pay EMIs for my loans. I skipped few EMIs as well. My last 4 years has been about chasing losses and trying to cover up my losses from my parents. I’ve been telling them that my company isn’t paying me on time but the truth is I’ve been using that money to recover from my previous losses. I always thought that one big bet would fix my problems and I ended up losing more money each time I did that. Now, I’m in a debt of 40000$ and most of it borrowed from friends and family. I wouldn’t get a single penny loan as my credit score is below 600 since I never made payments on time. The payments were made but not on time so that effected my score to a great extent. My yearly salary is 70000$ but I’m helpless. Couldn’t focus on work due to debts. I was diagnosed with tuberculosis due to stress and anxiety. My parents still do not know anything about it. They think that I’m working hard to keep them happy and comfortable but in reality these problems were created by my self. All I need a loan of 10000$ to pay off a percentage of my debts and take the pressure of my head but the banks wouldn’t understand. I’m feeling hopeless and worthless because of this. Is there any advice/help that anyone would give me to bring my life on track again ?

[Dunc]

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[i-did-it]

Hi Dote,
I can give u advice ,the same as I received for years but really unless u are ready to call stop on this problem it won’t matter .
First thing is how do you gamble ? If it is online invest in a gambling blocker for your computer/ laptop/phone etc. Gamblock and bet filter are two good ones.

Get yourself banned from all places you gamble .

Next ring all your debtors and set up a sensible repayment plan which leaves you enough to live comfortably. You will be amazed how quickly your credit score will rise and also how much money you have for debts when gambling isn’t using most of it .

You could maybe confide in one do your parents and tell them how things got out of hand and ask for their help. They could look after your account until you are ready to do so yourself. They will know something is up already and may be worrying it is drugs so they might be relieved .

Try coming to the groups on here – check times – they are good and most helpful.

There is no easy way out . But when u have a good wage things get better really quickly
Also whe u stop gambling your mind clears (all that counting and adding takes a lot of mind space) and you are able to focus on really dealing with the debt not just the immediate hurdle .

Please stay with this site. Consider joining GA.

Hope this helps

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