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Hello.
I have decided to start this post because really I believe this site helps, the support offered here helps. So for everyday with out gambling is a good day.
Here’s to day one.. I WILL NOT GAMBLE
I have been here before and my gambling reduced
Stop using this site and found myself back in the bookies
Anyone can join in. Help one and other on the way.
I am doing this for myself because I want change in my life
Good luck allOctober 30th one day at a time from now untill … I shall not gamble
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Well done Shaun
In the past you may have had day ones but you didn’t have the knowledge you have now …that you are powerless over gambling .
Once you take that first bet you become completely powerless and at the mercy of this addiction.
You have learned this now and today will be your last ever day one –because relapses are not inevitable .
You can stop just as many on here have stopped.
If you need really high barriers . Put them in place today.
You know what you need – is it an online gambling blocker, or a bookies self ban i.e. someone else to manage your money …or all of the above . Do you attend GA -do you need to?Don’t let anyone tell you relapses are inevitable – relapses mean you have left a door open to gamble.
Close them all tight and by Christmas you will be in such a different place .
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Thanks I did it.
I am aware of all the above. Just easier said than done sometimes. After 6 years of my partner controlling my finances. I still can’t keep 10￡ in my bank for a period longer than 24 hours. So I know consequences before than action has even taken place.
I know what needs to be done involving barriers ECT. I admit I would benefit from a GA meeting more than I think. Finding one… I have not got round to yet.
All in the nick of time
But for today I’m happy getting back into the one day at a time routine.
The build up to Christmas has been stressful previously so hopefully I can make a difference this time round.
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Hi Shaun ,
Sorry didn’t mean to tell you what u already knew.
It feels like something has clicked for me this time so I guess I want to tell the world .
Having said that I’m only on day 33 not years .I m not sure why GA works but it the only real difference I have made this time – I have added in a few GA meetings which I located on the GA website .
Keep going – one day at a time !
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One day at a time you can get through November mate. It’s only ever going to be TODAY you don’t need to bet. Just today, you’ve done that many times.
I hate sating the obvious Shaun, but no gambling every single day from today, is going to help give your family some sort of Christmas.
You know how quickly things can spiral out of control. You done well in August Shaun when posting everyday, even when you gambled you came straight back. Not many do. When you stopped posting look where you ended up. A coincidence? It’s just funny how many of us have experienced the same coincidence.
As I said on your August thread I was a cynic of the old monthly pacts and never joined in. But joining yours in August has given me a new prospectus on this. I had forgotten how I felt when I first started recovery. Every day I got through I wanted to tell people of what to me was a big achievement, and I also wanted to be accountable, I wanted to actually show somebody who appreciated it, that I could get through a day without gambling. I could get through a Saturday. I could get through a payday. These are all big achievements to any CG, compared to when we were gambling. These achievements, every single day is an achievement really, are appreciated here on this forum. In the real world though you probably cross paths with people who have just never gambled at all. To millions of people its no big deal to go through the whole of life without any gambling, never mind ten years, two years, 3 months, a week, a day.
You know you’ve got a problem with it mate, you know its not going to get better. If posting here everyday is helping you in anyway keep doing it.
Oct 31st ..No gambling, just for today!
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Who knows when we will hear something or read something that we’ve heard or seen many times before but for some reason this time it clicks. We each know the struggle for recovery is real. It is good to read your post and see so many fellow CG’s offering support. We just want to see each other live a life without the suffering this addiction brings. Keep posting or pacting or whatever helps you from day to day.
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A big well done to you… yes whatever works for you do it. It is a great feeling to get through days gamble free, its relief to be out of the madness. The longer you go the less the urges will come. Its only once we start again that it takes over and we are gone.. its avoiding the start. One day at a time you are doing this, you have stopped
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Great posts everybody really appreciate it.
Yes ididit something clicked for me when I joined this site. The fact we recognised what we was doing is wrong, there’s only so much one will take, I’m glad it happened to me though. I got so sick n tired of being depressed because I had lost or gambled what i knew I shouldn’t have.
Your right mark power full words by Geordie all of its true. I am glad the pact showed you a new prospective and you helped get me through August. I should have continued without a second thought when you asked. But I have learned and things did not get better when I stopped posting so I will continue a life long pledge mate.
Thanks Laura and p I hope your both doing well. We’re all here for change reading and learning others storys the supports great Laura and yes p one day at a time I will avoid them start days. I can do it buddy
Today 1st November is going to be a gamble free day.
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Just for today, 1st November, I will not gamble.
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On at a time mate, we’ll trundle along. It’s no big deal really.
Nov 2nd….Just for today I wont gamble.
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Just for today, 3rd Nov. No gambling for me.
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No gambling on Nov 4th for me.
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Today I will not gamble.
Look on this month, Shaun as a ”Fellowhip/Unity” month
Every night when you put your head on the pillow be thankful that TODAY was a ”clean” day.
The Monthly Pact has it’s flaws but if it creates confidence and accountable, I’m happy to follow along,one day at a time. -
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It’s just another day.
No gambling for me.
Do you still work nights Shaun?
Have you ended up in anymore debt, or trouble, because of your last gambling?
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Ye still working nights mate. And no, no debt just gambling everyday constant weather it be 5 pounds or 50. Just continuous, constant.
That’s what it is for me. Ye I have debt from it but I’m not increasing that debt. I have ruined my credit anyway. I could gamble our shopping money, Bill money. Times I have wasted my wage n so on. Just can5 continue that lifestyle any more -
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No gambling today, Nov 6th.
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Just for today I won’t gamble!
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No gambling for me today…it’s a no no.
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I was never a fan of these monthly pacts once upon a time.
Just typing on here, ”Just for today I won’t gamble” Isn’t really going to fix anything.
But there are a great number of us who have built up a considerable amount of consecutive gamble free today’s without the need for any ”daily pledge” (Larry springs to mind).
We all have to be a bit selfish in our own recoveries, every person in recovery should be doing it for themselves (Annie Lennox springs to mind ?? ) . However we were all struggling like fishes out of water for many a day/week/month/year.
We just didn’t get it.
This is Shaun’s thread, he has a young family, it’s nearly Christmas. He’s tried to stop gambling a few times..he’s done a thing nearly everyone of us has, at least once.
Stopped posting, and started gambling. Or started gambling and stopped posting. Dosn’t matter which.
He’s back here and like a lot of us old timers has achieved the same as us this month, a gamble free November. 8 days one after the other gamble free.
We all have our own worries and cares, they seem of a much bigger magnitude at this time of year. But we all know how valuable support and encouragement is, especially during the early days.
It is easy for us to get wrapped up in our own problems, I’m going to be posting a daily pledge on this thread every day for the rest of this year, I think Vera will too. But it would be great if we had a good few doing the same. I noticed earlier on today when looking through some historical threads from the last 7 or 8 years and realised just how many people took the time (20 seconds?) every day, to pledge and encourage each other.
I dont want to see anybody go wonky, theres no reason why anybody should mind you. But I think the more of us that get behind the newer people the more benefit it will be to them, we’ve all been in the position where we’ve been waiting hours or days for a reply on our own threads, its not nice. Feeling alone.
It’d be great to get a few more names on here to help Shaun get through to Christmas, one day at a time. Recovery is for life not just for Christmas.
In the early days who cares about recovery? Didn’t we just want to stop gambling, work hard and get out of the poo?
Be great to see a few names join the list.
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Hi Shaun,
Well done on starting your monthly pact – I always thought counting days didn’t t help me, but it is so motivating .The monthly pact seems to be doing the same for you .
Did you find the monthly pact really helped you stop Vera – did you always stick to it ? I might add it to my repertoire !
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No gambling today.
Today Shaun was typical of a day that would have had me gambling in the past. I didn’t gamble, and it hadn’t crossed my mind.
Having said that mate, for long periods in my life any day would have been a gambling day. I can’t emphasise enough if I can change, anybody can.
Pleased we helped you in August, we all help each other mate. I’m hoping you stick with this daily post til Christmas had been and gone and then start thinking about some real recovery type therapy I know you said GMA was out the question back then, and I understand your reasons. It’s obvious you need support mate.
You sacrificed your place at GMA so as you could be with your kids, I understand that 100%. Be awful for their Christmas to be ruined because you’ve gotten back into gambling when GMA could have been your salvation. A bitter irony. No reason for that to happen, and no guarantee GMA would have helped sort you out especially if you weren’t 100% committed to it.
Just for the record Shaun I think you did the right thing not going at that time.
One day at a time mate.
9th Nov. No gambling for me. Because it’s a waste of time, waste of money and I’m a pathetic addict once I start . Oh and I don’t bloody want to because I don’t like it anymore!
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Ten days into the months already.
I never gamble on a Friday anymore.
Just for today tenth of November I will not gamble.
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Might be what you think you want, but you know as well as me, you never need it.
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That’s brilliant that you can overcome days like today Geordie, that you have reconiginesed it, managed it and come out on top. I like your last sentence mate. Good stuff.
Yes I would not have been 100% at gma and yes I do need the support. I just know I’m sticking to one day at a day and i can do that.
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Remembrance Day/weekend that would be the one time of year I’d feel quite ashamed to gamble, not that it stopped me, don’t think I’ve gambled as the clock struck 11. I’m sure millions of people didn’t give up their lives, just for people like me to throw ours away.
11th November. Just for today I won’t gamble.
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Shaun you are doing so well. Im happy for you and your family. Its those who we love so much who we strive to be the best for. Your posts tells a story of my life in many ways..i have thought on more than one occasion WOW finally found others who understand the emotional and financial dread that i feel..yet also understand the urge to escape to the one thing.. the false dream that we think that gambling will bring ..the financial means to change our and our families world..but that ends up being our nightmare because we CG if we have ”hit” we think its our big day and keep playing. Those normal people who would only take so much money for gambling would stop. Not me it had to be my lucky day when i get hit. Only to turn from wining to chasing to broke..stressed depressed felt like everyone would be better without me..yet when those intense emotions would pass and thank God they did for me i just felt like a loser and let down on those who depended on me so much..i haven’t gambled since 9/25/17 and the mountains and valleys are still there but atleast i know i cant do it on my own , im not alone, and i did not gamble today..this site. ,GA meeting and individual therapy are my tool box and as long as i am actively participating in my addiction my tool box is my resource i go to for support understanding and strength to say ..i will not gamble today.. So much for my rambling. I am proud of you for today you did not gamble. Have a good night and enjoy your family.
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Just for today I won’t’ gamble.
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No gambling for me today.
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Just for today I didn’t gamble
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You’re doing grand Shaun more than half way through the month already.
I didn’t post yesterday, thought I had, no gambling though.
No gambling today either.
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Sorry been off work on sick for a week so have a good excuse.
No gambling yesterday, 17th Nov. And, just for today, 18th Nov, I won’t gamble.
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Everyday is like Sunday.
Just for today. I won’t gamble. It’s not too hard really.
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Look it’s the 20th already.
Shaun, how are you feeling about Christmas? Have you anything planned?
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I’ll join you. Today I wont gamble either. Just for today though.
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To quote Mavis Reilly, ”I dont really know”.
I’m working 24th and 26th if weather is ok I’ll probably drive up the road to see my mother.
I hope you were busy in a good way mate, I did notice you hadn’t posted. Are you ok gambling wise ? Putting it another way is November still a gamble free month?
I know this is just a quick ”just for today” thread, but if you’re having urges, bad thought’s, or even gambling mate please talk about it….a problem shared and all that.
Take care man.
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I will not gamble
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The months going ok Geordie mate. Just tired from work, I know it’s only 5 mins to post but some days I really can not be bothered.
Just trying to keep on the straight and narrow mate.
Hope the weather is decent for you. But saying that I would enjoy being snowed in lol
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Well that’s alright then! ??
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No gambling for me today. Because in my eyes..its shite!
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Today I won’t gamble.
No post again yesterday Shaun, I take on board what you say about being tired.
But 5 minutes a day can keep the gambling at bay.
No Vera either ??
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For the 12th consecutive month I wont be gambling on the 25th day, of course the last twelve of them aren’t as important as this one, they were at the time. This is the important one. Why is it so important?
Because its TODAY…just for today I wont gamble, I’ll promise you that!
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A quick post each day, can keep the demons at bay.
No Vera or Shaun yesterday, howay man.
I tell you what I’ve posted on this thread nearly everyday this month and havn’t gambled.
Coincidence?
I used to think Paul/Laryy’s daily pledge was ”lame” I actually think now there is a lot of good in it.
Just for today..I wont gamble.
And where as I do care about other peoples lives and recoveries, mine is the most important one to me. And if some people think I’m a knob….that really is their business.
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I’m having a day off GT tomorrow, so I pledge early,
As well as today 26th Nov, tomorrow will be a gamble free day for me.
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Just for today. I will not gamble.
Shaun, hope that you’re ok mate.
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I hope you do ”speak soon”
I’m grateful that just for today I wont be gambling. I understand how difficult it has been for me to get to the stage where I can say that and believe it without any doubt at all.
My life at the minute Shaun is also full of ups and downs. Above all else though my commitment to recovery and staying away from gambling has to be my number one priority.
I’ve made the mistake of trying to go it alone too many times in the past.
Take care man. All the best.
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That’s another full gambling free month.
Just for today I will not gamble. Just like the rest of the week and month. Just like yesterday.
I never told any lies either. (Not that I’m aware of).
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1. 9 am – Two hard boiled eggs for breakfast
2. 12.30pm – Three hard boiled egg white only for lunch
3. 6.30pm – One hour walk home from office.
4. Cucumber and One hard boiled egg for dinner.
5. Stay gamble free today.
6. Drink lots of water with lemon slice inside.What they say is true, you do not feel hungry so easily eating hard boiled egg white. I ate 6 hard boiled eggs today.
Tomorrow I do the same.
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1. 9 am – Two hard boiled eggs for breakfast
2. 12.30pm – Three hard boiled eggs for lunch
3. Broccoli and one hard boiled egg for dinner.
5. Stay gamble free today.
6. Drink lots of water with lemon slice.
I was so hungry in the evening that I had to buy some broccoli for dinner.
Tomorrow I do the same.
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