[TF]

I thought I’d quickly start this thread before I forget and it’s an important part of your puzzle if you’re look for recover. 

I literally said to myself “I would rather die than to confess to my family about my gambling”… now when I said that a mere fortnight ago, I meant it because this would have been the 3rd time I had broken their hearts, and the thousands of pounds I had squandered, not to mention the quality time I had missed out on because I was holed up in the loo with my online gambling addiction.

As it happens I got busted. I was logging on and I didn’t didn’t realise that by doing so on my iPhone that the website would momentarily flash up on my laptop and from there on in I was hunted down by my daughter to confess.

As it happens my worse nightmare and as actually my saving grac. I’ll share more later but suffice to say if you really want to stop, coming clean with a loved one can help break the cycle of deceit which Ibe found is half the battle and the guilt that comes with it. I’ll check in with you guys later 

[dunc]

Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums, Ive moved your thread from F&F to My Journal

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

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And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you ??

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

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[Berta24449787]

Hey TF;
I can understand both the not wanting your family to find out and the relief if they do. I am a single mom that has raised my kids from the time they were 18 months or so by myself. I have kept a job, the same horrible, demanding time sucking job for 30 years + and have managed to do alright for myself. I struggled through my teen years to self support and managed to graduate high school and get a few years of university under my belt before life took over and I had to work full time. I am very proud of what I have accomplished and didn’t start to put it all in jeopardy until a few years ago in my 50s. I wouldn’t want my family to lose respect for me . It’s just that simple and perhaps just that self defeating. I am going to try to defeat the beast without them knowing. If I fail then I shall try another way

[Steev]

I would agree that sharing your gambling problem is a very personal decision and not one to be taken lightly.  My only thought is that it is (usually) better to share than to be found out … It is often the lies and deceits that family members find hard to put up with – especially if someone has relapsed and is thought to be clean.

I don’t know if you noticed but the OP didn’t actually confess his gambling … he was found out.  Luckily this seems to have gone well – but it is not always the case.  It is always a difficult decision and one which may need support to make. 

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