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I’m a 22 year old female from London and I’ve gambled on and off for a couple of years, living my mum and just working then gambling, spending everything I have on online slots to pass the time and remove me from reality. I spent thousands but it didn’t matter cause I had no commitments but last month my mum died from cancer. So I had to move out. The money I have until the house is sold is minimal and I got scared and gambled it trying to make enough to pay the rent that was due last week, I’ve never lived alone. I didn’t have enough and the direct debit bounced, I spend the most of my day debating how much easier it would be to end my life because no one would no, I’d have no rent to pay, no debt, nothing. I’d be willing to stop gambling and attend GA meetings etc but how are you meant to get to that point when if I don’t pay my rent by Monday morning (it’s Saturday night now) then I’m going to be homeless. How am I meant to see things better and improve my life when I can’t even keep a roof over my head. I’m too young to have credit to get a loan and I can’t find a loan shark, I wouldn’t know where to begin. I’m not sure what’ll kill me first, the cold if I lose my apartment or the stress of all this.
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Hi LabRat61, I am so sorry for the loss of your Mother. I am sending you hugs)))) You are so young! Is there anyone whom you could live with until you can get back on your feet? If not, are there any services there that will help you? Please reach out to friends and family!!! Don’t gamble, it will only make you feel worse. First try to get help for your current problems, housing. Then you can deal with the gambling addiction. Banning yourself, GA meetings, GT posting and groups. Take care of yourself. Please keep posting here.
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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
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Hello Labrat, firstly my commiserations for your loss.
Well done on looking for help, I am really glad that you have done so now, while you haven’t got any money, as opposed to after the house is sold and you have lost whatever lump sum you will get from that.
I see you are in London, you have a lot of help available to you there. Regarding your finances you can get free, expert advice from either the Citizens Advice Bureau or Stepchange. If your financial difficulties are only going to be short term ie until the hosue is sold, then maybe you could explain that to whoever you owe the money to.
Whatever you do regarding the finances the most important thing is to address your gambling. Read the other stories here, what barriers could you put in place to make it harder for you to place your next bet?
“….I’d be willing to stop gambling and attend GA meetings ….”
I hope you change that to “I AM willing to……” There are LOTS of GA meetigns in London, if the worst happens then you will need meetings and support to stay gamble free more than ever.
You can stop gambling I promise you, keep posting here, get to meetings and get some proper financial advice.
As you have mentioned what you spend the day debating then I think I should also give you this link to the Samaritans here in the UK https://www.samaritans.org/
There is always someone to talk to there.
There is a lot of life after gambling though, use the support that you have avaialble, here and/or elsewhere. keep posting and let us know some of the positive steps you are starting to take.
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After reading all of the comments in just one day had given me the motivation I need, I’m seeking financial support as well as contacted someone about mental health problems. I didn’t think reading the reply would give that push but maybe it’s just what I needed. Il keep got updated and thank you to everyone who has supported me by replying.
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