Hello
Thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy friends and family forum. This forum will provide you with warmth and understanding from your peers.
Feel free to use the friends and family group, you’ll find the times for these if you click on the “Group times” box on our Home page
Read about the friends and Family Online Groups
Now that you have introduced yourself you’ll find that many of the people you meet here have already read your initial introduction and they’ll welcome you in like an old friend ??
If you’re the friend or family member of someone who is either in, or has been through, the GMA residential programme please take extra care to make sure that nothing you say in groups, or on our forums, inadvertently identifies that person. Even if your loved one isn’t connected with GMA, please don’t identify them either directly or indirectly just in case they decide to use the site themselves.
You’ll find a lot of advice on this site, some of which you’ll follow, some you won’t…but that’s ok because only you fully understand your situation and what’s best for you and the people you love. So, take the support you need and leave the advice you don’t because it all comes from a caring, nurturing place ??
We look forward to hearing all about you!
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

Hi Cherry

Well done writing what must have been a difficult first post.

The most important thing for you to do is to look after you and your unborn child first. This might not seem like much of an answer to you but it works this way – whatever is going on with your husband, he will not be deliberately hurting you and the last thing he will want to do is wreck your lives. Feeling guilty about you will not change what he is doing.

The addiction to gamble is not something anybody would want, your husband neither asked for it, nor wanted it. He is almost certainly unaware of the way you feel and the damage he is doing to you and also to himself. His self-esteem and confidence will be low and sadly, he will believe that a gamble is the only answer for him.

I hope you can stop crying and fighting and losing sleep – these things only wear you out, ruin ‘your’ health and change nothing.

I hope that by posting here you will gain at least two things; one is that you will feel less alone because you are talking to people who understand; another is that you will learn to cope because by doing so you will hopefully be able to direct your husband to the support he needs.

I wouldn’t be here Cherry If I thought that your husband could not control his addiction – I know that with help, he can.

Keep posting

Velvet

• 該回覆由 velvet 於 3 years, 8 months ago 修改。